In today’s episodes of The Tragedy Academy, Jay welcomes Freda Jing, or as she has coined herself, a Hexagon threat. Freda courageously takes us on her journey of overcoming seven years of clinical depression and how she could heal from that through discovering self-acceptance.
Key Points:
😔 Conquering seven years of depression
🩺 Getting diagnosed
❤️ Finding self-acceptance
🎓 The broken education system
😥 Body Dysmorphia
🙅🏻♀️ Rejection from universities
💊 Pharmaceuticals
Episode Highlights:
[02:33] Freda reveals the difficult road that was ahead of her when diagnosed with depression. She explains how her symptoms associated with her mental state were left undiagnosed until age 16, being dismissed and not taken seriously throughout her childhood.
[05:09] Freda shares her mental health issues were intertwined with expectations from her and her family; she felt like she could not live up to it. Although the people surrounding her were kind and wanted to help, Freda confesses to being closed off and not accepting the help. It wasn’t until she discovered self-acceptance when she started to heal.
[09:34] Wanting to reach people’s expectations, Freda damaged herself even more. When it came time to apply for universities, the act of getting rejected triggered a desire for suicide. It wasn’t until she got rejected from institutions repeatedly that she realized that it doesn’t matter what other people think; they have their agenda.
[13:14] Jay and Freda agree that the education system is flawed and meant to keep a person in a manufactured role. They agree that the current system is antiquated, and by the time a student heads off to college, everything they have learned up until that point was strictly for someone else. The school system ultimately 6-separates people by blue- and white-collar roles.
[22:18] Jay and Freda discuss the issue of body dysmorphia that’s pushed onto us by society. They agree that terms like “fat” or “ugly” do not exist and divide society. We keep these concepts circled in the community because we continue to lie to ourselves about them.
[28:12] Freda shares the need for negativity in our lives to appreciate the positivity later.
[29:24] Freda shares a TED Talk she listened to from a Neuroscientist that had a stroke, and part of her brain that made decisions for the future was no longer working. She states how she felt because, for the first time, she was able to live in the present.
[31:50] Freda recognizes that putting importance on university acceptance drove her to a mental hospital. She put so much weight into getting accepted, so it tore her down every time she got rejected. Now that she’s in her 5th year of getting rejected does not affect her because loved ones surround her.
[36:11] Jay and Freda agree that pharmaceuticals are a double edge sword. Although there are side effects of taking medication, it still has its place in the world. Ultimately, what helps with the process of healing is combining eastern and western medicine practices.
[48:31] Freda reveals being triggered by the Olympics because of its underlying competition and the need to be #1.
Connect with Freda:
Instagram | @freda_dearling
