Summary
On this installment of The Tragedy Academy, Jay is joined by two good friends, Andre and his makeup artist wife, Niki. Together, they break down the barrier of race, stereotypes, and social conditioning and bring about a fresh, realistic perspective.
Key Points:
👰♀️ The Marriage Club🤵♂️
👨👩👧👦 The perception of the black family
📝. The ten steps on How to make a marriage work
💇🏾♀️ Black women’s hair, presenting self in white culture
🪐 Intent and universal law
😵💫 Social conditioning
Episode Highlights:
[00:01:00] Introduction to Andre and Niki
[00:07:19] Niki educates us on The Marriage Club, a Facebook group, but primarily a support group, that gives insights and experiences into other people’s marriage for those who have questions or want a different perspective.
[00:12:15] Niki offers perspective on growing up in a black family and how in society they are typecasted as broken without fathers when she experienced quite the opposite.
[00:15:34] Andre recites the ten steps on How to Make a Marriage work and includes an 11th step to the process, Unity.
[00:19:19] Niki walks us through her transitions from being a tomboy in grade school to evolving into a girly girl in high school and college. She expresses the empowerment she felt like a woman and the massive confident booster she experienced.
[00:29:49] Jay shares an anecdote of him at a black hair salon where a hairstylist was prepping a wig for a client.
[00:32:19] Andre expresses his love for the variety of people there are in the world. From hair to skin color and everything in between. Niki shares an anecdote of having to constantly look presentable in school but especially when it comes to hairstyles at a job interview.
[00:40:56] Jay shares his opinion on why the black community expresses themselves more authentically than their white counterparts. Primarily because they do not experience comradery and appeasement, they are often shamed and feel jealous.
[00:47:05] Andre shows empathy towards a man that displayed racist behavior; he understands that this person was raised in a certain way and in a country that encourages this behavior.
[00:53:57] Andre, Niki, and Jay agree that languages are different in every culture. Some may have a word for one thing while the other doesn’t. The most important thing to remember is that we are a melting pot and offer an array of customs and traditions.
[01:02:17] Jay brings up the ever-apparent concept of social conditioning. He and Niki agree that what happens in childhood affects you into adulthood. But in the end, you have to thank yourself for making it this far and working on yourself every day because one thing you can’t control is time.
[01:06:56] Jay brings up the idea that most people think humanity has no value without money. In reality, the more you give away, the more you get, so there is more harm in hoarding it than being generous. But the actual value lies in yourselves and introducing yourself to new experiences.
[01:11:06] Connect with Niki and Andre
Connect with Niki:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mdior_makeupartistry/?utm_medium=copy_link
